The LGBT Brutally Reviewed by a Newcomer

Let me first begin by the most basic of facts... Above being gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender we are human and just like all humans we have our shortcomings. We may not like a certain attitude, we may find ourselves clashing with other people and it will eventually spill over within “your” own community. For instance I have received hateful, angry emails from other transgender women for simply not dressing feminine enough for their tastes. (I kind of expected that when I began putting myself out there in the public eye with the whole kendrachelsea.com thing, SFW, their opinion will not affect me in the slightest)

So if we can expect bitterness within our own community those clashes will happen exponentially as we begin to add to our community. We are transgender, we are gay, we are lesbian, we are bisexual and we are one.

We are one? Is that even possible when our own community will clash over the simplest things, “fucking bitch never liked my Facebook post…”

Oh but we are family right? I mean sure we can bicker between ourselves but when push comes to shove we will defend our own.

Let’s examine the statement “we are family.”

In a post for Breitbart, the group’s administrator Joseph Murray claimed “Trump’s stance wasn’t at odds with his group because the “sex vs. gender fight is not the same fight of gays and lesbians for equal legal status of their same-sex relations.” Or even better “because gay rights and trans rights are not synonymous.”

http://www.pinknews.co.uk/2016/07/07/gays-for-trump-campaign-comes-out-against-transgender-rights/

Let me ask a question that will never be answered. “Are you speaking for only gay people? Bisexuals? The gender queer?” Or did you take it upon yourself to speak for the entire LGBTQ community or even more disturbing, did you take it upon yourself to divide our family?

Yea, yeah, one man, one segment, like you said we are human beyond all else- right?

If you are not transgender you may not be familiar with some of the other walls that we sometimes need to climb simply within our own subset within the LGBT

So with that said…. Ms. Ben-Shalom is a well-known figure and prominent LGBT advocate. Miriam Ben-Shalom was originally invited to serve as grand marshal of the upcoming Milwaukee Pride Parade. Let me take a brief moment to say “Fuck you Ms. Ben-Shalom.” Okay, moving on…

Let me also take a moment to delve into the messed up mind of this, so-called LGBT advocate. “If I have to march in lock step to some political line, then to heck with it,” she told FOX6. “Because I don’t march in lock step.”

Okay that’s not really out of the ordinary, kind of brave actually but what follows, well for me, its unforgivable. Despite claiming she has no issue with the community, she has also claimed that trans women are not really women. “If trans women were really women, they would get it!”

http://www.pinknews.co.uk/2016/07/07/gays-for-trump-campaign-comes-out-against-transgender-rights/

Okay Ms. Ben-Shalom, how would you feel if I said this to a news outlet? “Real women are attracted to men, if you were a real woman, you would get it!”

See, obstacle, walls, all within the LGBT community…And people think that we can all come together and play nice, all the time….won’t happen, we are human and we, like everyone else, are flawed.

Okay you may think I see things from a slanted view-point, I mean after all I am transgender but in truth, we are guilty of the same things as other segments of the LGBT (oops, left off the Q) I have to wonder if I sometimes intentionally do that. My Facebook page “The T in LGBT” was also created without the Q and to be fully critical of myself, I am not entirely sure I didn’t do that on purpose.

As I mentioned earlier I have gotten many hateful emails and much to my surprise they have ALL BEEN FROM TRANSGENDER WOMEN.

“You look nothing like a woman.” Thanks Zena…did wonders for my already failing confidence. “

Do you ever wear a dress? You are taking the easy way out.” That one from, well couldn’t tell you actually because she didn’t even supply me with a fake name to use.

So we internalize, we compartmentalize and we end up doing it ourselves. I see that weakness in myself, I hate when I see what the press, the media and even Hollywood does when they supply the general population with the face of, for instance a gender queer individual or drag queen and present it as the face of transgender men and women.

So at least I recognize it, see my failing and I speak regularly to my therapist about it; I do not hate anyone and I do not want people to think I am putting up a border between the LGB and the T…not my intention and I know before it is over, I will accept everyone for who they are but for some others, well, they either do not know what they are doing or do not care.

In Scotland, a ban on drag performers at an event in this year’s pride celebrations has rocked the LGBT community and spun into in-fighting between advocacy groups. In an explanation on its blog, the founders argued that drag turned gender identity into a joke.

http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2015/07/23/drag-queens-banned-from-pride-event-for-offendi-ng-trans-people.html

And guess what? There are times I think this way also and yes, I hate myself for feeling that way; as I said above I am working on this with my therapist but…I am still human, just like everyone else.

So I am not without blame, I threw down a dividing line, an obstacle to overcome for others but the one thing that will NEVER, EVER happen with me, I would never put my needs in the LGBT community over the needs of another segment of our community. That my friends is called selfish.

Yes, I would tell my closest friends how I feel, I would tell Joseph Murray how ignorant he is…I would look Ms. Ben-Shalom in the eye and tell her how fucked up her brain is but in the end I would lay down my life for these messed up people because, like it or not, they are my family.

#lgbt #lgbtq #Gay #Bisexual #Genderqueer #Restrooms